Lead by Example

News
The 6-Week Professional Speaking course has been delayed due to scheduling issues with some participants. The great news is that we will start up soon and there is still room available. The new start date will be announced soon.

If you speak Korean, I would like to let you know about an exciting event that One Amazing Life is having. This Saturday at 12:00pm mind coach Sung Hee Cho will be presenting a three hour workshop that deals with how our self image affects our lives. If you would like more info you can check out:

http://cafe.naver.com/oneamazinglife

You can also email sunghee@oneamazinglife.com with questions, or to register for the event.

Quote

"An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching"

-Gandhi

My Thoughts

Perhaps the best example I can think of is actually a story about Gandhi:

A mother was concerned about how much sugar her son was eating; She tried to make him stop eating sugar but nothing worked. Incredibly frustrated with her son she finally decided she would take him to see Gandhi and ask for his help. She walked for hour and hours under the scorching sun to visit him. She asked Gandhi if he would tell her son to stop eating sugar. Gandhi replied come back next week. The mother was perplexed but she did as Gandhi instructed. The following week the mother and son returned and Gandhi told the son to stop eating sugar. The mother asked Gandhi, “This was a very arduous journey for us to come to see you, why couldn’t you have told my son last week to stop eating sugar?” Gandhi replied, “Last week I was eating sugar, this week I gave it up.”

If you would like other people to change then you must first change. Telling or yelling will not work and may make the situation worse. Asking or attempting to get the other person to see your point of view usually won't work either. If you would like someone to be a better communicator, you must first become a better communicator. If you would like someone to start getting in shape, you must first get in shape. If you would like someone to pursue their passion, you must first pursue your passion.

The point here is you have to lead by example and also not judge others for you were probably once in their shoes.

Have a great week.

What Do You See?

News

We still have seats available for this Thursday's 6-Week Professional Speaking course. If you would love to become better at speaking in front of people then this would be a great investment for you to make.

For more information on the course please visit www.oneamazinglife.com

If you would like to register for the course please email me: bob@oneamazinglife.com

Quote

"Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change."

-Dr. Wayne Dyer

My Thoughts

Sometimes you may find yourself getting caught up in negativity. Once you start focusing on the negative you start to see the world negatively. This creates a cycle that can be difficult to break. For example: Let's suppose that you dislike your job and one day you start complaining about your job. The next thing you know you are complaining about your coworkers and your boss. From there it keeps growing. Then you find yourself complaining about the bus driver, people on the subway, the waitress, the coffee, the food, and on and on it goes.

So what can you do about this? How can you get out of it?

The first thing is you need to become aware of your thoughts. Most people simply don't realize exactly how negative they are. After you become aware of your thoughts, you have the power to change your thinking. You need to start focusing on what is good around you. I recommend finding things that you are grateful for.

Finally, remember you can't always control what situations you find yourself in but you can control your reaction to those situations. You could ask "Why me?" but that probably won't get you very far and will start up the blame cycle. Instead ask yourself "What can I do in this situation?" or "What control do I have?". This will help you start seeing other potential options that you wouldn’t have seen if you kept focusing on the negative.

Have a wonderful week.

Potential

Happy New Year.
I hope you had a wonderful weekend.

News
1. There are still some seats available for Saturday's "Finally Fit Now" workshop. If you ever struggled with maintaining your weight or a health program, then you do not want to miss this workshop.

2. We also are starting another professional speaking course on Thursday, January 13th at 7:30pm.
It is limited to eight people, however I already have four people 100% confirmed so there are only four spots left.

Here is some more info about the course:
6-Week Professional Speaking Course

Who this course is designed for:
1. People that are looking to build self-confidence and
greatly reduce their fear of speaking in public.
2. People that would like to learn how to prepare speech
content and connect with any audience.
3. People that would love to increase their leadership
skills.
4. People that want to understand how to effectively deliver
their message.
5. People that are seeking to get promoted in whatever field
they are in.


Total Time: 12 hours
6 hours of instruction / 6 hours of practical application

Class Size: 6-8 people

Instructor: Bob Taylor
Founder of One Amazing Life / Certified Personal Development
Coach / Korea University Executive MBA Presentation Skills
Instructor / Partner of Bob Proctor and LifeSuccess Consultants /
Trained by Bill Gove Certified Professional Speakers

Week 1
Cultural Differences that can affect a speech
Connecting with the 4 different types of people in an
audience
How to do an impromptu speech
Each student delivers a very short impromptu speech

To see the entire course layout please check out www.oneamazinglife.com

Here is what one person had to say about the course:
"The Professional Speaking Course that Bob Taylor offers at One Amazing Life was more than a simple speaking course that teaches you how to speak. It broke my own limitation I'd had all my life that I was a bad speaker. It helped me realize the potential in myself that I could be a great speaker, through numerous speaking exercises in the course. It truly was a liberating, and fantastic learning experience for me. I'd recommend this course to anyone who thinks (s)he is not a good speaker because Bob will help you discover your potential and be a confident and competent speaker."
-Jimin Uam - PADI OW Instructor

I normally charge a minimum of 100,000 won per hour for this type of training, however I would like to make it accessible to everyone. So instead of charging 1,200,000 won, you can take the entire course for only 300,000 won.

As I said there are only four spots left for the speaking course. If you would like to attend the workshop or the speaking course please email me: bob@oneamazinglife.com

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"We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives... not looking for flaws, but for potential."
-Ellen Goodman

My Thoughts
People often look at their lives and determine their potential by their past results. We have all done it from time to time. The problem with doing this is that it will severly limit you. Your past results are merely a reflection of what you have been thinking up until this point and time. You have the ability to change your thinking whenever you choose. The only limit to your potential is what you say it is.

Another clue in how people limit themselves is in the goals they set, or in many cases don't set. Many people set New Year's resolutions. How many people actually follow through with them? Not many. Why is that? Well most people don't put any worthwhile effort into setting these resolutions. The other thing is that there is not enough emotion tied to the resolutions.

Here are some common resolutions:

-Lose Weight

-Be Happy

-Organize my life

-Learn something new

-Quit Smoking

All of those are limiting. I won't go into all the reasons but mainly because they are not specific and not emotional.

What is my recommendation? Stop setting New Year's resolutions. That's right. Think about it, if you've been setting resolutions for the past 15 years and have never followed through you have yourself a 15 year old habit taking up space in your subconscious mind. Quit reinforcing that habit.

Instead of a list of meaningless resolutions, I offer you a different challenge.

Spend some time contemplating this question:

If I absolutely knew I would not fail, what is one thing I would do?

After you have the answer to that question spend more time thinking of what you can do right now to move you closer to to achieving it and then start taking action.

Have an outstanding week.

Quotes to Contemplate

I hope you had a wonderful Christmas.

News
We will be having a three hour health workshop on Saturday, January 8th from 1:00-4:00pm. With Q&A the workshop may actually last slightly longer.

I will tell you the story of how I went from being a horrifically thin 130lbs (59kgs) at six feet tall (183cm) to a healthy 235lbs (107kgs). More importantly you will learn how to take control of your health. It doesn't matter if your goal is to lose, maintain, or gain weight, the principles that I share with you can be applied to all areas.

You will also hear from my friend and workout partner. He will share his story of losing 35lbs (16kgs) in three months.

If you've ever had trouble maintaining any sort of health program, or you are stuck in your current routine, then this would be a great workshop to attend.

Here is what you will receive by attending:
-A health related goal.
-Action steps related to the goal.
-The knowledge of what was causing you to fail before.
-A guide giving you sample workout routines and nutrition plans.

The maximum number of participants is 15, so if you would love to attend please reserve early.

As mentioned previously I usually charge 200,000 won per person for similar types of workshops when I provide them for companies. However I would like to make this great information as accessible as possible to everyone so the price will be discounted 75%.
The entire 3+ hour workshop will only cost 50,000 won.

I have 13 years of experience with various sorts of workouts: Calisthenics ,Circuit training, Mixed martial arts training, Bodybuilding, Powerlifting, etc.. I have dealt with coming back from and working around injuries: torn ligament, pulled lower back muscles, bicep tendonitis, tricep tendonitis, etc..I also have almost three years of personal development coaching experience.

If you would love to attend, you can register by emailing me: bob@oneamazinglife.com

Quote
“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds: Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great, and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.”
-Patanjali

"There exists only the present instant... a Now which always and without end is itself new. There is no yesterday nor any tomorrow, but only Now, as it was a thousand years ago and as it will be a thousand years hence."
-Meister Eckhart

“A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it”
-Dogen

No thoughts from me this week. Instead, I would like you to seriously contemplate on those quotes above.

Have an incredible week.

Goals That Stretch You

News
Upcoming Events:
Saturday, January 8th: Health Workshop
Thursday, January 13th: Six Week Professional Speaking Course
We may also have a Saturday speaking course or mastermind course.


Quote
“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.”
-Jim Rohn

My Thoughts
Last week I ended with a few questions: "If I am grateful for what I have, why do you suggest that I set goals?". "Why try to attain something I don't have?" "Won't that make me depressed because I don't have it?"

The answer to those questions is that a goal is not really about getting something, it is about who you become. This is why it is incredibly important to set goals that stretch you and force you to grow. When you set a goal you shouldn't know every detail on how you will attain it.

I'll give you a financial example. Let's suppose you currently earn $3,000 a month. You would like to earn more than that, and you find out that if you get a certain certification that you will receive a guaranteed 15% pay raise. So you will get an extra $450 a month. You set a goal to finish that certification within six months. However, no matter how hard you try you just can't bring yourself to finish it. Why? You've stated that you want to earn more money and here is an opportunity to do it and you can't finish it.
Why?
Many people will point to laziness. However that is usually not the correct answer. It has to do more with emotion. Now what if you found out that if you finished that certification within the next two weeks your pay would triple? Most people would probably stay up all night studying and make major sacrifices to finish that certification. The reason is $9,000 a month gets people a lot more excited than $3,450 a month.
The point here is instead of setting a small goal that you immediately know how to achieve, set a goal that inspires you. How much money would you love to earn.......and don't think about how you will do it? How much? Maybe the answer is $25,000 a month, you now have yourself a financial goal. You most likely have no idea of how you are going to get from your current monthly earnings to $25,000 a month. This will cause you to grow and really develop yourself in ways that you couldn't possibly imagine.

Perhaps money doesn't excite you. Maybe it's health related. Let me give you another example. Most people in January set some sort of health goal. 95% of people give up on that goal by February. Why? Once again it would appear laziness is the obvious answer. However it's the same answer as above. It's emotion.
Most people set a goal to lose a few pounds, or cut back on eating fast food, or give up smoking....there are two problems with these:
1. Negative words in the goal: Lose, give up, etc...Your goal should be positively stated. Ex: instead of lose weight put what weight you want to be at.
2. Emotion.
So let's suppose we have someone that weighs 220lbs (100kgs) and is 25% bodyfat. He decides he wants to lose a few pounds. He starts off well, but give up less than a month in. Maybe he starts again before summer but fails again.
Now let's suppose someone else with the same stats decides he wants to look like someone from some movie, or maybe an athlete. He doesn't know how he's going to do this. He has no clue about nutrition, workouts, rest, etc.. After some research he finds out he will have to get his bodyfat down to 10% which means he will have to lose about 40lbs(18kgs). Not just 40lbs of total weight, he will have to focus on maintaining as much muscle mass as possible. Not an easy feat. This person is sure to grow from this experience and he will have a better chance of success. Why? Because it is much more emotionally exciting than simply losing a few pounds.

I will cover all of this in detail at the January 8th workshop.

So, when you set a goal do not think about what you can attain. Ask yourself: "What do I really want?". As Bob Proctor said your goal should scare and excite you at the same time.

Have an incredible week and a great Christmas.

Gratitude

News
Some upcoming events to think about:
Saturday, January 8th: Health Workshop
Thursday, January 13th: Six Week Professional Speaking Course
We may also have a Saturday speaking course or mastermind course.

Quote
"I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet."
-Persian Proverb possibly from the poet Sa'di

My Thoughts
Do you find yourself often complaining about what you don't have? Or complaining about the situation you are in?
This quote is reminding us to be grateful for what we do have. Remember to ask yourself the question "Compared to what?".
For example: I am poor/My life is horrible/The economy is bad/etc...So ask: I am poor...compared to what?/My life is horrible....compared to what?/The economy is bad....compared to what?
This can help you switch your perception.
Ex:
A: I am poor.
B: Compared to what?
A: Compared to everyone around me making xxxxx.
B: What about if you changed comparisons? Perhaps compare yourself with the homeless person you see outside the subway every morning. Are you poor compared to him?

Be grateful for everything that you have. I encourage you to write down at least ten things you are grateful for every day. Try it out for the next 30 days straight and see how it changes you. I did this for 90 days straight last year and the change was phenomenal.
By the way, I am not suggesting you completely downplay or ignore your current situation, but it helps when you put it into perspective. Things tend not to be as bad as we think.

Now you may wonder "If I am grateful for what I have, why do you suggest that I set goals?". "Why try to attain something I don't have?" "Won't that make me depressed because I don't have it?"
Great questions.
I will answer those in next week's message.

Have an awesome week.

Focusing on Thoughts

Hello Everyone,

I hope you had an outstanding weekend.

News
No updates for this week.


Quote
"As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives. "
-Henry David Thoreau

My Thoughts
You have probably had thoughts that could have made you a millionaire, and/or thoughts that could have helped millions of people and changed the world. So what happened? Did you hold on to those thoughts? Did you focus on them? Did you write them down? Did you imprint those thoughts into the very core of who you are? The answer for most people is of course, no. The thoughts show up and you may think about them for a day or two and then it's gone replaced by something else.

In order to really create something, we must think about it over and over and over again. However, simply thinking about something won't really change much, we must act. Action is the key.

Which brings me to a slightly controversial point. But I offer you this as perhaps a chance to shift your perception. This is about one of the founders of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. I have not seen the movie "The Social Network", but I have heard about it so much over the last two months that I feel like I have. From what I understand, the movie doesn't portray a flattering picture of Mark Zuckeberg. Now I have never met this man, but I will tell you how incredibly easy it is to depict people however you want them to be seen - many news programs are incredibly good at doing with stories as well. Remember, if there are bad things about Zuckerberg and Facebook then there must also be good things. Have Zuckerberg and Facebook done any good for the world?

Think back over your own life for a moment. Now what if I went around and asked people about you? However what if I made sure to mainly ask the people that don't like you for one reason or another? I would then easily be able to make you look not so good.

My point is all of us have done things in the past that maybe we could have handled better had we known more facts. So do I know 100% if Zuckeberg is a great guy? No. Do I know 100% if he's a bad guy? No. I am sure he has his better points and not so better points. Many people will say but he should be, or could be doing better. Could he be doing better? Maybe. But the question I propose to you is could you be doing better? Possibly. Could I be doing better? Definitely.

What does any of this have to do with Thoreau's quote?

The reason I use Zuckerberg's story is because it's very recent. I could have done the same with other big businesses(which many people consider "evil") such as: Coca-Cola, Microsoft, Apple, etc... You see Zuckerberg had an idea, one that he thought about, one that he focused on, and of course one that he took action on. Other people may or may not have had his idea or a similar idea, but only one of them moved quickly. It's been said that when you get a great idea, never assume that you are the only one that has had that idea and that someone somewhere could be working on the very same idea.

To sum this up, if you have an idea that excites you, you must capture it. It can not be a fleeting thought. Write it down. Think about often. Take whatever action you can.

Have an amazing week.

Bob