Taking Responsibilty

News
Many people have inquired about when I will be doing another Mastermind Course. The great news is that I've decided to start one on Wednesday, April 13th.

This course is a great way to get introduced into coaching.

You should seriously consider joining if you've struggled with areas such as:
Goal Setting & Achieving
Decision Making
Procrastination
Fear
Persistence
Self-Confidence

We meet once a week for about two hours and discuss the above topics as well as many others in detail. The meetings typically last two hours and are held in a group discussion format.

The course is based on Napoleon Hill's classic book 'Think and Grow Rich'.

Details
When: Wednesday, April 13th - Wednesday, May 18th
Time: 7:00 - 9:00pm
Location: One Amazing Life (2 minutes away from Sinsa station)
Participants: 6-10

As I mentioned before my normal fee for corporate coaching is 300,000 - 600,000 per hour, however I want to make this as affordable as possible to individuals.
Price: 200,000 won for the entire 12-14 hour course.

With that being said, I've also decided that if you register for the course by Sunday, April 10th you will receive 25% off. That means the entire course can be had for a small investment of 150,000 won.

We also offer flexible payment plans.

To register for the course, or if you have any questions, please email me:
bob@oneamazinglife.com

You can download the course outline by going to:
www.oneamazinglife.com-->English-->Menu-->How-->Mastermind Groups
Then click on .pdf at the bottom of the page.

Quote
“Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand, he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.”
-Voltaire

Thoughts
Life isn't fair. Some people were born into wealthy families, others into extreme poverty. Some people were born healthy, able to use all of their mental faculties and limbs, others were born blind/deaf/handicapped. Some people were born stereotypically good looking, others were not.
I am sure all of you realize this.

The question is what are you going to do about it?

I'll share a story with you.

After my mother died when I was 13 my father remarried less than a year later. That marriage meant I now had two stepbrothers and one stepsister. All of them were 7-10 years older than me.

My stepsister was an alcoholic and a drug addict. She had a daughter that was born in 1990. However my stepsister continued to do cocaine (along with other things) during much of her pregnancy so when her daughter was born she was very small and doctors said she would have serious mental problems.

So when I first met my stepsister's daughter she was almost 4 years old. She had autism. Up until that point she had never spoken a single word. Doctors said that she would never be able to put sentences together and she would be stuck mentally at age 3 her whole life. Over the next year my father and stepmother adopted my stepsister's daughter which made her my stepsister. I was almost 15 years old at this point and time.

Now the thing was my father was a very busy guy. He was a truck driver and he worked a ton of hours, so he didn't have time to really give his new stepdaughter the amount of attention she needed. My stepmother was preoccupied with other things in life. The other thing was we didn't have enough money to send her to a school that would have really helped her.

So, I decided that maybe I could help my new stepsister somehow. Don't get me wrong I was not some kind of saint. It was more out of wanting to help another human being plus curiosity. I read a lot when I was a teenager (I still do). In all the reading I had done I came across stories of people that overcame great adversities.
I refused to believe that it was impossible for her not to be able to grow.

Every night I would talk to her. I would help her do her homework. I taught her how to tie her shoes (which was no easy task). Eventually she started speaking coherent words. Then she started stringing sentences together. It was an incredible experience.

By the time I left for the military when I was 18 she was able to do many normal things on her own. She was almost 9 years old at the time and according to doctors mentally she was around 6-7. Today she is 21 years old, mentally around 12. Unfortunately, when I left people didn't work with her as closely as I was able to so her progress slowed dramatically. However, it is still quite impressive considering doctors just wrote her off in the beginning.

Obviously, there are numerous points to the story above.
I would like you to take away two things from this:
1. Just because people say something is impossible doesn't mean it is true.
2. Regardless of the circumstances that you were born with, or that have happened to you, you can rise above them and achieve whatever you truly desire.

Have a phenomenal week.

Committment

To the readers in Japan: I wish you well during this trying time.

News
No new updates for this week.

Quote
"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
-Unknown

Thoughts
I wrote the following with the assumption that you actually want what you are seeking (example: You think you need an MBA because so-and-so told you that you do. You say you want to get it, although deep down inside you don't really want to).

Do you find yourself unable to achieve whatever it is that you desire? Perhaps you would like more money, better health, better relationships, etc... but you keep coming up short. You say you've tried your best but it's still not working.
Where can you look for answers?

Two places: Time and Money.

I hear these two excuses the most:
1. I am so busy, I don't have time to do xxxx.
2. I don't have enough money for xxxx.

Time is obviously much more important than money because you can never get time back. So, where do you spend your time? Let's suppose on a typical weekday:
You work 9 hours a day.
You sleep 8 hours.
This leaves you with 7 hours free.
What are you doing with that time? Are you taking effective action?
Of course that doesn't include the weekends which, assuming you don't work on the weekends, means that you have 16 hours of free time on Saturday and 16 hours of free time on Sunday.

So if we add all that up we get 67 hours of free time every week. You get to choose how you use this time. Are you using it to achieve something that you want, or are you wasting it?

The other area you need to look at is money. Where is your money going? Is it going to an area that will move you closer to your desired goal?

Most people say they don't have money for:
Coaching, Training Courses, Personal Trainers, School, etc...

However these same people find money to:
Go out drinking, buy new clothes, shoes, phones, computers, etc...

They have the money they just haven't committed to their goal yet.

Let's use an example:
When I decided to get my coaching certification I was working as an analyst for a defense contractor. My schedule during the week usually looked like this:
Work: 9 hours a day
Gym: 1.5 hours a day (5 days a week)
Sleep: 7 hours a day

That left me with 6.5 hours of free time during a typical weekday.

However I felt I needed to unwind after work. Sound familiar?

So what was I doing with that extra time? In order: Playing video games, Watching TV, Mindlessly browsing the Internet, Occasionally reading a book. Or: Going out and partying.

Then one day I made a decision. I decided that I was committed to pursuing the coaching certification and I was committed to starting my own business.

Here is what my schedule looked like immediately after I made this decision: In order: Coaching training calls, Reading books related to my field, Research.

Since that time I have not played video games and I don't watch TV. Both were not in line with my future goals.

What about money (after paying rent and necessities)?

Before the decision: Partying, Car related items, Workout related items.

After the decision: Coaching certification, Books, Other training courses, Workout related items.

As you can see there was a big shift in priorities. Don't get me wrong, you do need time to relax. However, most people put way too much time and money in that category if they plan on achieving big goals.

The point here is if you want to break out of your current circumstances and start making your dreams become a reality, then you have to stop making excuses.

If you are not getting the results that you want, then I encourage all of you to take a serious look at where you are spending your time and money.

Have an excellent week.

Responsibility

Quote
"The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins."
-Bob Moawad

My Thoughts
Do you take responsibility for all of your results? Or only for your successes? Do you find yourself blaming other people for your setbacks or failures? We all may find ourselves doing this from time to time.

When we decide to take 100% responsibility for our results we will start to see things change.
We will then be in control of our future. This is a very big step for most people to take because it is certainly easier to blame other people for the situations we find ourselves in.

I encourage all of you to become more aware of excuses. Start eliminating them from your life. You'll be amazed at how much more control you have.

Until next time...

Excuses

Quote
"A pro is at their best regardless."
-Bill Gove

My Thoughts
We all sometimes make excuses for reasons why we haven't done something. We say we will do something and when the time comes we don't do it, or we put it off. After we do this we justify our actions with all of these "valid" reasons -also known as- excuses.

What Bill Gove is telling us is that we should assume 100% responsibility for our actions. We need to stop blaming other people, or outside circumstances for not achieving what we say we want.
I want to suggest that you form the habit of not making excuses. You will be amazed at your ability to get things done.

Until next time....