Why Are You Crying?

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Story
I found this on story on Paulo Coelho's blog and wanted to share it with you.

Why Are You Crying?
A man knocked at his Bedouin friend’s door to ask him a favor:

“I want you to lend me four thousand dinars because I have a debt to pay. Can you do that for me?”

The friend asked his wife to gather together everything they had of value, but even so it was not enough. They had to go out and borrow money from the neighbors until they managed to get the full amount.

When the man left, the woman noticed that her husband was crying.

“Why are you sad? Now that we’ve got ourselves in debt with our neighbors, are you afraid we won’t be able to repay them?”

“Nothing of the sort! I’m crying because he is someone I love so much, but even so I had no idea he was in need.
“I only remembered him when he had to knock on my door to ask me for a loan.”

Have an outstanding week.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

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Quote
"Well done is better than well said."
~Benjamin Franklin

My Thoughts
Do you have someone around you that is great at talking, but maybe not so great at doing? I am sure most of us do. And from time to time we all have been guilty of saying we would do something and then not following through. I am not talking about the occasional slip up. I am talking about those for whom much talk and little to no action has become a habit.

There are certain people that are great talkers, so great in fact that they may fool you numerous times. Sometimes you may really want to believe them. In the end the best way to tell someone's character is in what they do, not what they say.

This of course can apply to all areas of our lives, but I'd like to talk about relationships for a moment. I am not just referring to husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, but friends and family as well.

In coaching the topic of relationships comes up quite often. People so often want to believe that their husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/friend, etc.. is honest, trustworthy, caring, etc.. They want to believe in the person so much that they impair their intuition and reasoning ability. It's true all people are inherently good, but sometimes their actions can hurt you, and may actually be harmful to you.

Here is an example: A very close friend becomes seriously ill (not on their deathbed, but more than a common cold). You say that you will always be there for them, but that night you made plans to go out with some other friends to party. Your seriously ill friend messages you that they would like some support. Now they don't directly ask you to come over, so the question is, would you go visit your sick friend or still go out and party?

Just think about that scenario for a minute. Of course there are numerous other scenarios that end with a similar question; will you really be there when someone needs you, or do you just say that you'll be there?

How can you tell if someone does truly care about you, or value you? Look at their actions. Try and take yourself out of the situation by asking, "If another person (or the wisest person you know) looked at (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/friend) actions, what would they say?". Do the actions match up with the words? If not, how many times has this occurred? If the answer is often or always then it is probably a safe bet that that person doesn't value you as much as they say they do.

The reason this is important to figure out is because it can put you on an emotional roller coaster. If you are the one that is always there for the other person and they don't return it (assuming they say they will), then it can be harmful to your growth. It may be time to reevaluate that relationship.

I encourage all of you to take a look at your relationships this week. Are you the one that is all talk and no action? Or are those closest to you like that? Or maybe it's a little of both?

If you are the one that is talking more than doing, I suggest you find ways in which you can do more. What action can you take to improve the situation?

Have a phenomenal week.

Committment

To the readers in Japan: I wish you well during this trying time.

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Quote
"There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results."
-Unknown

Thoughts
I wrote the following with the assumption that you actually want what you are seeking (example: You think you need an MBA because so-and-so told you that you do. You say you want to get it, although deep down inside you don't really want to).

Do you find yourself unable to achieve whatever it is that you desire? Perhaps you would like more money, better health, better relationships, etc... but you keep coming up short. You say you've tried your best but it's still not working.
Where can you look for answers?

Two places: Time and Money.

I hear these two excuses the most:
1. I am so busy, I don't have time to do xxxx.
2. I don't have enough money for xxxx.

Time is obviously much more important than money because you can never get time back. So, where do you spend your time? Let's suppose on a typical weekday:
You work 9 hours a day.
You sleep 8 hours.
This leaves you with 7 hours free.
What are you doing with that time? Are you taking effective action?
Of course that doesn't include the weekends which, assuming you don't work on the weekends, means that you have 16 hours of free time on Saturday and 16 hours of free time on Sunday.

So if we add all that up we get 67 hours of free time every week. You get to choose how you use this time. Are you using it to achieve something that you want, or are you wasting it?

The other area you need to look at is money. Where is your money going? Is it going to an area that will move you closer to your desired goal?

Most people say they don't have money for:
Coaching, Training Courses, Personal Trainers, School, etc...

However these same people find money to:
Go out drinking, buy new clothes, shoes, phones, computers, etc...

They have the money they just haven't committed to their goal yet.

Let's use an example:
When I decided to get my coaching certification I was working as an analyst for a defense contractor. My schedule during the week usually looked like this:
Work: 9 hours a day
Gym: 1.5 hours a day (5 days a week)
Sleep: 7 hours a day

That left me with 6.5 hours of free time during a typical weekday.

However I felt I needed to unwind after work. Sound familiar?

So what was I doing with that extra time? In order: Playing video games, Watching TV, Mindlessly browsing the Internet, Occasionally reading a book. Or: Going out and partying.

Then one day I made a decision. I decided that I was committed to pursuing the coaching certification and I was committed to starting my own business.

Here is what my schedule looked like immediately after I made this decision: In order: Coaching training calls, Reading books related to my field, Research.

Since that time I have not played video games and I don't watch TV. Both were not in line with my future goals.

What about money (after paying rent and necessities)?

Before the decision: Partying, Car related items, Workout related items.

After the decision: Coaching certification, Books, Other training courses, Workout related items.

As you can see there was a big shift in priorities. Don't get me wrong, you do need time to relax. However, most people put way too much time and money in that category if they plan on achieving big goals.

The point here is if you want to break out of your current circumstances and start making your dreams become a reality, then you have to stop making excuses.

If you are not getting the results that you want, then I encourage all of you to take a serious look at where you are spending your time and money.

Have an excellent week.