Monday, October 31, 2011

Serenity

News
No new updates for this week.

Quote
Fill your bowl to the brim and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife and it will blunt.
Chase after money and security and your heart will never unclench.
Care about other people's approval and you will be their prisoner.
Do your work, then step back. The only path to serenity.
-Lao Tzu

My Thoughts
No thoughts from me this week. I'd like you to reflect on the above quote and see how you can apply it in your life.

Have an amazing week.

Monday, October 24, 2011

Why Are You Crying?

News
The October discount on coaching programs is almost over. If you would like to take advantage of this opportunity please contact:
bob@oneamazinglife.com

Story
I found this on story on Paulo Coelho's blog and wanted to share it with you.

Why Are You Crying?
A man knocked at his Bedouin friend’s door to ask him a favor:

“I want you to lend me four thousand dinars because I have a debt to pay. Can you do that for me?”

The friend asked his wife to gather together everything they had of value, but even so it was not enough. They had to go out and borrow money from the neighbors until they managed to get the full amount.

When the man left, the woman noticed that her husband was crying.

“Why are you sad? Now that we’ve got ourselves in debt with our neighbors, are you afraid we won’t be able to repay them?”

“Nothing of the sort! I’m crying because he is someone I love so much, but even so I had no idea he was in need.
“I only remembered him when he had to knock on my door to ask me for a loan.”

Have an outstanding week.

Monday, October 17, 2011

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

News
All of our take home coaching programs are still discounted 50% for the month of October.

For more information, contact: bob@oneamazinglife.com

Quote
"Well done is better than well said."
~Benjamin Franklin

My Thoughts
Do you have someone around you that is great at talking, but maybe not so great at doing? I am sure most of us do. And from time to time we all have been guilty of saying we would do something and then not following through. I am not talking about the occasional slip up. I am talking about those for whom much talk and little to no action has become a habit.

There are certain people that are great talkers, so great in fact that they may fool you numerous times. Sometimes you may really want to believe them. In the end the best way to tell someone's character is in what they do, not what they say.

This of course can apply to all areas of our lives, but I'd like to talk about relationships for a moment. I am not just referring to husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend, but friends and family as well.

In coaching the topic of relationships comes up quite often. People so often want to believe that their husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/friend, etc.. is honest, trustworthy, caring, etc.. They want to believe in the person so much that they impair their intuition and reasoning ability. It's true all people are inherently good, but sometimes their actions can hurt you, and may actually be harmful to you.

Here is an example: A very close friend becomes seriously ill (not on their deathbed, but more than a common cold). You say that you will always be there for them, but that night you made plans to go out with some other friends to party. Your seriously ill friend messages you that they would like some support. Now they don't directly ask you to come over, so the question is, would you go visit your sick friend or still go out and party?

Just think about that scenario for a minute. Of course there are numerous other scenarios that end with a similar question; will you really be there when someone needs you, or do you just say that you'll be there?

How can you tell if someone does truly care about you, or value you? Look at their actions. Try and take yourself out of the situation by asking, "If another person (or the wisest person you know) looked at (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/friend) actions, what would they say?". Do the actions match up with the words? If not, how many times has this occurred? If the answer is often or always then it is probably a safe bet that that person doesn't value you as much as they say they do.

The reason this is important to figure out is because it can put you on an emotional roller coaster. If you are the one that is always there for the other person and they don't return it (assuming they say they will), then it can be harmful to your growth. It may be time to reevaluate that relationship.

I encourage all of you to take a look at your relationships this week. Are you the one that is all talk and no action? Or are those closest to you like that? Or maybe it's a little of both?

If you are the one that is talking more than doing, I suggest you find ways in which you can do more. What action can you take to improve the situation?

Have a phenomenal week.

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Buying Salt

News
All of our packaged coaching programs are still discounted at 50% until the end of October.

All of the programs are great, but the one that completely changed my life was a program called 'Success Puzzle'. It allowed me to become much more aware of my thoughts and emotions. It is the reason I started meditating and the reason I made a trip to India. It ultimately allowed me to let go of many judgments and to start seeing people as they truly are. I would highly recommend the program to anyone.

For more information please email me at: bob@oneamazinglife.com

I decided to share a story I found with you this week.

Story
Nixivan had invited his friends to supper and was cooking a succulent piece of meat for them. Suddenly, he realised that he had run out of salt. So Nixivan called to his son.

‘Go to the village and buy some salt, but pay a fair price for it: neither too much nor too little.’

His son was surprised.

‘I can understand why I shouldn’t pay too much for it, Father, but if I can bargain them down, why not save a bit of money?’

‘That would be the sensible thing to do in a big city, but it could destroy a small village like ours.’


When Nixivan’s guests, who had overheard their conversation, wanted to know why they should not buy salt more cheaply if they could, Nixivan replied:
‘The only reason a man would sell salt more cheaply than usual would be because he was desperate for money. And anyone who took advantage of that situation would be showing a lack of respect for the sweat and struggle of the man who laboured to produce it.’

‘But such a small thing couldn’t possibly destroy a village.’

‘In the beginning, there was only a small amount of injustice abroad in the world, but everyone who came afterwards added their portion, always thinking that it was only very small and unimportant, and look where we have ended up today.’


Have an awesome week.

Monday, October 3, 2011

The Way You See Things

News
I've received numerous emails recently of people in search of coaching. Unfortunately some of them live too far away to meet in person, or they can not meet due to scheduling conflicts.

The solution for this situation is to use our packaged coaching programs. These programs are based on Bob Proctor's 50 years of research and work coaching people all over the world.

The great news is because of the numerous emails I've decided to offer the programs at a discounted rate in October. All of our packaged programs are discounted 50% for the month of October.

You can visit www.oneamazinglife.com to view more information on each program.

Please contact me at bob@oneamazinglife.com if you have any questions.

Quote
"It all depends on how we look at things, and not how they are in themselves."
-Carl Jung

My Thoughts
Many people tend to look at the world in black and white, or right and wrong. There are at least two problems with this way of thinking:
1. It can put you into a box so you don't see opportunities.
2. It can lead you to judge others.

I discussed judgments a few weeks ago, so I'll share a story about opportunities.

When I was 16 years old everyone assumed that I would go to college and find a "good" job. I would work at the "good" job, get married, have kids, and retire.
I decided to not go that route.
I ended up joining the Army at 18, got out after five years, worked as a defense contractor for six years, and then started this business about three years ago.

Had I taken the traditional route I seriously doubt I would have lived in Korea. I doubt I would have done some of the interesting work I did while in the Army and as a defense contractor. I also don't think I would have found my passion as early.

By not following the traditional route, I was able to:
- Live in Korea for 11 years so far.
- Earn a 6-figure salary by the time I was 25.
- Work on special government projects.
- Start a business.
- Find my passion <---the most important thing

Usually, most people think I have to go to university. Then I have to go to graduate school. Then I have to go work for a large company. Then I have to get married. etc... The thing is when you only think in that one way, you don't see other opportunities that are around you.

When I was deciding what I would do after high school, I rejected the notion that I must go to university. Instead I asked "What other options are available?". I did the same when I decided to finish up my time in the Army. And many of you know the story of how I ended up becoming a personal development coach and starting my own business.

Don't get me wrong I am not suggesting that the traditional path is wrong. I am just saying that is not for everyone nor should it be forced upon someone.

I encourage you to see where your views are rigid and see if you can start opening them up a bit.

Have an awesome week.